小年夜的遐想——和谐
改革开放三十年系列谈之五
文/安如山 成稿于2009年1月19日小年之夜
今日是我们南方的小年夜。小年夜也是一个团圆夜。
今日过小年，也令如山浮想连篇的。
如山最先想起了小时候。小时候，如山最盼望的事就是过小年了。记得那时候过小年，就会有好吃的。如今的小年对于小孩子来说也没有多大的意义了。因为，如今的小孩子每天都是过小年一样。他们的心目中已经没有了多少的过小年的意识，反到对西方的圣诞节钟情了起来。
如山又想到了前不久看的冯小刚的贺岁片《非诚勿忧》。片子里有一句以搞笑方式出现的非常正统的台词：“21世纪什么最贵？和谐。”
小年夜的如山想起了和谐。
21世纪什么最贵？和谐。和谐是很难能可贵的。我们国家的目标也是要建一个和谐的社会，铸造一个和谐的世界。和谐，最怕的就是折腾。中国人就喜欢折腾。折腾来折腾去的，最后就没有了和谐，一个地球、一个国家、一个社会、一个单位、一个组织、一个家庭都莫不如是。喜欢折腾就会要葬送和谐。
和谐原本就那么的贵，原本就那样的难以追寻。
要想实现和得到和谐，先得有一个和谐的精神。
什么样的精神是和谐的精神。和谐的精神对于一个国家来说，就是要以民为本，以和为贵。和谐的精神对于一个家庭、一个小团体来说，就是要以国为家，以家为本。没有和谐的国家，不可能有和谐的家庭，没有和谐的家庭，也不可能有和谐的社会。
小年夜令如山想起和谐，就令如山想起了家庭这个社会最基本的细胞的意义。
家庭的和谐，要有一定的举案齐眉的精神，以前的女人把男人叫做“当家的”。这也是过去的家庭与现代的家庭不同，并更能实现“和谐”的原因所在。任何家庭都经不起折腾，一哭二闹三上吊，这样的家庭不要也罢。折腾来折腾去，一个家庭拆了，一个家庭散了，社会还是不能和谐。原本就不喜欢和谐而喜欢折腾的人，即使你建立了新的家庭，你也不是实现家庭和谐的料。家庭和谐是社会和谐的基础。国家和谐是世界和谐的基石。
国家的和谐，要有一点点调和的精神。任何国家都经不起折腾。一个国家搞了党派政治，又搞经济政治；讨好了这个主义，又讨好那个主义；掀起了内战，又喊抵抗侵略；反了内讧，又反殖民；游了行，还骂娘，这都不是和谐的民族精神。国家有内争的，外面的环境也不可能好到哪儿去的。一个国家折腾够了，他们的人民也不可能和谐到哪儿去的。死了儿子的，没有了丈夫的，被强奸了女儿的，这样的家庭如果是和谐的，那是一个颠倒黑白的真理的缘故。如今有很多人还生活在非常时代里，还回忆和欣赏着非常年代里的生活，似乎很向往和理解非常年代里的生活。我们这样的堂堂的一个大国，似乎有这么多年没有了战争，在致力于自己的经济建设，反而觉得不正常了，手里有了点小钱，心里就开始痒痒了。这是战争的后遗症。我们的民族要警惕。谁去谈判，谁去中止战争，就会要贴上“投降派”“卖国贼”的标签。“枪杆子出政权”，“落后就要挨打”、“帝国主义和一切反动派都是纸老虎”，这是战争的机器的极不和谐的轰鸣声。
别看以巴冲突和俄乌“斗气”，他们都是国内不能和谐，就把矛盾转移到国际之间来。别看美国金融危机不和谐，他们可要把全世界的经济都要拉下水。以色列不和谐，把战争当机器，以提高党派的竞争实力。巴勒斯坦不和谐，哈马斯就用妇女、儿童当盾牌，以提高其组织在阿拉伯世界里的地位，他们真有好的理念，他们一手拿着枪，一手拿着橄榄枝。那个国家不和谐，党内争权，阶层争利，就会把最苦难的人民绑上战争的机器，纵观古今，了览中外，都莫不如是，不要听一切的历史的、非历史的所谓真理或者谎言。
俄罗斯和乌克兰本是居于同一个屋檐下，但最近却因一些并非天然的“气”而生气，并发展“斗气”，昔日兄弟，今日反目成仇。他们掌控着世界资源，却要拿世界资源来要挟世界人民。战争的机器又可能要发动。21世纪最不能和谐的可能就是“能源”。
小年夜如山还想起了刚刚过世的姑妈。姑妈中风多年了，于前两天过世，走完了她80岁的历程。她是一个贫苦的最基层的农村家庭主妇。她却是中国和谐家庭的典范。姑妈成功的和谐，关键的是她一辈子想任何事、做任何事首先想到的都不是自己，而是儿女、丈夫、亲人和朋友。儿时的如山最喜欢到姑妈家。因为姑妈家是一个典型的和谐家庭，有着特殊的和谐气氛。姑妈读书不多，善于言谈，是一个和谐的高手，关系很善于调理，到老都能保持一种特殊的风采。如山结论：自私是人类最大的敌人，自私是和谐最大的敌人。动不动就宣扬国家利益、民族利益的都不是什么好鸟。国家的好战分子和家庭的折腾分子，在本质是一样的。姑妈的理念就掀不起战争，无论是家庭的战争和国家的战争。但姑妈绝不是弱者，她同样得到了亲人、家庭、社会的尊重。
如山还想到单位里的一些转业军人，他们就喜欢战争，喜欢在单位里搬弄是非。这是战争理念在他们心里刻下的阴影。他们处理人际关系也当作了战场，以胜负见分晓。当然中国的经济条件还不够。如果条件成熟，如山建议国家设立职业军人制度。军人不能转业地方，不能把地方的和谐当作军人战争理念的实验场。军人不谈经济、不谈政治，看到伊拉克开战了，他们津津乐道，看到印巴冲突了，他们也磨拳擦掌了。军人和战争都不是和谐社会的力量源泉。和谐社会的力量源泉是如山的刚刚过世的姑妈。
小年夜里，如山在为姑妈默默地祈祷和祝福。如山想：她在另一个世界也挑不起任何的纷争。
如山过两天将送姑妈最后一程。好人命不长，或要最受尽了磨难才会离开这个世界。姑妈就是这样，她就要在春节前，小年前离开这个世界。当然已经中风了的姑妈是不知道四川汶川的地震的。她要是知道的话，也不知她要在这个风雨中的小年夜里，为四川的他们流下多少的眼泪。
我佛慈悲。慈善的人的眼泪就是这个世界和你的家庭的润滑剂。
朋友们，请你相信眼泪。
莫斯科不相信眼泪，安如山就相信眼泪。相信最真诚的眼泪。
因此，和谐也是一个虚拟的结构。这个世界本没有和谐。
和谐的理念的获得，是改革开放三十年里最伟大的思想成就。
我们就是要和谐。我们不仅要和谐的家庭，和谐的社会。我们还要和谐的世界与和谐的太空。和谐就是这个世界里最和谐的词汇。
下面是英文版
Some Dreaming Views on Harmony in the Lunar Xiaonian‘s Evening
A series of discusses oncommemoration of reform and open policy 30 years in China (the fifth)
Article from An Rushan Translated by An rushan
Now is the lunar Xiaonian‘s evening in our southern China.The fevestal evening is also a reunion‘s night for all of Chinese.
Today makes offerings to Guonian,also makes Rushan recollections serial.
In this night,Rushan firstly remember my childhood.In my childhood,the matter which I hoped made offerings to Guonian.At that time,I would have delicious.But present‘s children life are like Guonian every day.In their mind,already did not exist consciousness to Guonian,instead to has been deep in love to the Western‘s Christmas Day.
I had thought Feng Xiaogang‘s New Year‘s greeting film named Non-Honest Not to Sorrow,which I looked some days ago.In the flat has some very legitimate lines,which the way appears:"in the 21st century,what is the most expensive?Harmonious."
I remember the word of"harmony"in the lunar Xiaonian‘s evening.
In the 21st century ,what is the most expensive?Harmonious.The harmony is very commendable.Our country‘s goal is that will construct a harmonious society,a casting harmonious world.Harmonious is hard not to toss about.Chinese likes tossing about.Finally we did not get the harmony.To an earth,to a country,to a society,to a unit,to an organization,and to a family,there is nothing likes.We will not like tossing about,will probably ruin the harmony.
Harmony originally is so expensive,originally with difficulty for tracking down!
If we must realize and to obtain the harmony,we must has the harmonious spirit firstly.
What spirit is the harmonious spirit?For a country,the harmonious spirit is "must take the people as a basis","regarding peaces as the precious".For a family,the harmonious spirit is"must take a nation as a family","take the family as a basis".A harmonious country is impossible not to own the harmony family,the harmonious family is also impossible not to get the harmony society.
The lunar Xiaonian‘s evening makes me remember the harmony,and makes me remember the family is the most basic cell‘s significance of a society.The family harmony must have certain mutual respect spirit between husband and wife.The beforehand woman is so-called her man"Danjiade".It is different between the old family and the modern family,and the older family is easier to realize"harmoniously".The reason was that any family cannot withstand tossing-about,such a family is tossing about and tossing about,the family has opened,the family has dispersed,the society cannot stand with.Does not like the human who is originally harmonious likes tossing about,even if you have established the new family,it is hard for you to realize the harmony.
The family‘s harmony is the foundation of the social harmony.The national harmony is the cornerstone of the harmonious world.
The national harmony must have distributed spirit.Any country cannot withstand tossing about.A country has done the local politics,also does the economical politics,flattered this principle,also flattered that principle,started the civil war,also shouts the resisting aggression,counter-internal strife,also instead colonizes and paraded,but also shouts "mother-fucker",this is not the harmonious national spirit.The country has the internal struggle,where exist the good outside environment is impossible.A country tossed about has sufficed,where their people‘s harmony is also impossible.Has died the son,the husband,has been raped the daughter,if such a family was harmonious.That is the truth reason which distorts the facts.
Now,many people also like to live in the unusual time,but also recalls,and is appreciating in the unusual age life,yearning for the understanding unusual age in their life.We solemn the great nation, as if had been not to have the war for many years,in devoted to own economic development,insteading to thought that is not normal,in the hand had a change,started to itch at heart.This is war‘s sequela.Our nationality must be vigilant.Who negotiates,who stops the war,will probably paste on"the capitulationists"and"the traitor label","the gun leaves the political power","backwardness must come under attack","the imperiali** and all reactionary are the paper tiger".This is the war‘s machine‘s harmonious noises but not voices.
You do not see that the Israeli-Palestinian conflict and the"mumps"between Russia and Ukraine,they are domestic cannot be harmonious,contradictory shifts to internation.You do not see that the US financial crisis is not harmonious,they may probably drag down the world economy.Israel is not harmonious,their war‘s machine enhances the parties and groups the competition strength.Palestine is not harmonious,Hamas uses the women and the children as the shield,to enhance its organizational status in the Arab world,they have the good idea really,taking the gun on one hand,and taking the olive branch on the other hand.That country is not harmonious,the party‘s internal struggle power,the social stratum competes,will tie the most misery people up to the war‘s machine,from holoscopic ancient to modern,looking at Chinese and Foreigner,there is nothing like will be,do not listen to so-called truth or the rumor with all historical and non-historical things.
Russia and Ukraine originally are reside under the identical eaves,but actually by the natural"gas"was angry recently because of developing"mumps".In former days,they lived like a couple of brothers,today, quarrelling like enemies.They are controlling the world resources,actually must take the world resources to coerce the people of the world.War‘s machine possibly start.The 21st century‘s disharmoniousness is possibly"energy".
In the lunar Xiaonian‘s evening,I also has remembered my aunt who just passed away.My aunt has stroken for two years.A couple of days ago,she passed away,with her 80 years-old course.She is a poor basic countryside housewife.She is actually the model of Chinese harmonious family.My aunt has been in successful harmony.What is essential is that she thought for a lifetime any matter,is that she does any matter first to think about herself,but her husband, her family member and her friends.In my childhood I likes my aunt‘s family very much.Because my aunt‘s family was a typical harmonious family,filling the special harmonious atmosphere.My aunt‘s studying is so poor,but she is good at the conversation,and become a harmonious master,which are good at recuperating the relations,and maintaining one kind of special elegant demeanor.As a result,I think:Selfish is the greatest enemy of the human,selfish is also the greatest enemy of our harmony.Publicizes the country‘s interest and the nation‘s interests is not a good idea.The national war-like elements and the family-toss-about member,essencely is the same.My aunt‘s idea cannot raise the war,regardless of being the family war and the national war.But my aunt is not the weak one in her life,she obtained the family member and the society‘s respection similarly.
Rushan also thought about some demobilized soldier in my unit,they likes the war,likes telling tales in the unit.This is the war shadow-idea which engraves at heart in them.They dealt with the interpersonal relationship also to treat as the battlefield,was clear by the victory and defeat.Certainly China‘s current economic condition is insufficient.If conditions were ripe,I suggested that the government may sets up the professional soldier system.The serviceman cannot change career,cannot treat the local harmony as the experimental field.The serviceman did not like discussing economy and politics.when they saw Iraq made in war,they love to talking about,when they saw India and Pakistan have conflicted in mumps,they were also ready to fight.The serviceman and the war are not the fountainheads of the harmonious society‘s strength.The fountainhead of the harmonious society‘s strength may be my aunt who passed away just now.
In the lunar Xiaonian‘s evening,I am silently praying and blessing for my aunt.I thought:She also selects any dispute in another world.
In two days,I will have delivered my aunt.A good‘s life is not long,or the good must suffer the tribulation only,then to leave this world.My aunt like this,she must leave this world before the Spring Festival.My stroken aunt had certainly already not known the Sichuan Wenchuan‘s earthquake.If she knew,I thought that she must flows off her tears in the windy and rainy mid-night for the Sichuan‘s.
How mercious my Buddha!The charitable person‘s tear is lubricant in our world and your family.
All abundant friends of mine,I ask you believe the tears.
Moscow does not believe the tear,but An Rushan believes the tear and believes the most sincere tear.
Therefore,harmonious is also a hypothesized structure.This world does not exist the harmony.
Harmonious idea‘s acquisition is the greatest thought achievement in the reform and openning policy 30 years in China.I think so,now.
We must be harmonious.We not only want the harmonious family,harmonious society,but also want the harmonious world and the harmonious outer-space.The harmony is the most harmonious glossary in our dictionary.